ANGER – what we struggle to hide
We are change agents that are revolutionizing both the corporate hallways as well as the homes, relationships, and families of successful individuals who are tired of run-of-the-mill ”feel good” coaches, trainers, shrinks and self-help experts who don’t understand the high performing brain and the illusions of change. Bringing cutting edge decisional neuroscience to the concierge model of care, we travel the world, customizing executive-level wellness solutions that “merge” these two worlds into a single plan of excellence and everyone’s ultimate goal: true, sustainable behavior change that “sticks.”
We specialize in executive wellness, substance abuse & relationship therapy.
A Greeting from Dr. Fleming
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the problem
Models of therapy don’t fit lifestyles, assumptions, and thinking of driven folks “on the go”
We are over-medicating people
Our personal and professional lives are “split” by supposed healers who compartmentalize us
Lack of innovation by people doing change work these days
We all say we want to change, but hate being changed
the promise
We match our technologies and facilitations with the needs of each individual client – including taking it all right to your door or getaway location!
We measure/assess the brain’s imbalances exactly and promote a natural balancing of the brain
We see a “bridge of thinking” between our many selves, and we leverage a systems-based way to create shifts that minimizes contradictions and compartmentalizing
We leverage neuroeconomics and the study of “irrationality” to get real – fast – so your time is not wasted with illusions
A Minute of Your Time with Dr. Fleming
What’s Essential – What’s Important
Dr. Fleming outlines a key distinction many of us in this busy world “miss” when we fall victim to making everything important…..then nothing really is.
I Want Happiness
Dr. Fleming shares his thoughts on the culture’s addiction to this quest for happiness at all costs and what we may be missing.
I Don’t Feel Like It
When we all hear this sentence, we all tend to think of an excuse. While that may be true for some, Dr. Fleming shares how perhaps this sentence is more reflective of a neuro truth around behavior change than we all may think.
Change On My Terms
Can we really have everything we want, 100 percent of the time in this life? What do we do when we are faced with changing something about who we are and the immediacy of our desires are blocked at the same time? Dr. Fleming shares some insights about the fundamental nature of the ‘trade off”.
Your Emotions
Why do we feel “feelings” and emotions are the end all be all of a happy life? Dr. Fleming invites you to hop into a proper perspective of how this inner world of ours fits into a reasonable, virtuous, ‘good’ life.
Your Will
Is a self that could do anything or a self that is grounded in reality better in the long run? Walk with Dr. Fleming to see the idea of limitations in a “fresh” way—for a paradoxical breakthrough you have been likely missing.
Your “Unknown” Life
Our discomfort with not knowing is certainly highlighted at these times, but Dr. Fleming invites you into a freeing way of seeing your life and the change it requires
Your Relationships
We all want facets of our closest relationships to change, in certain ways or places or times. But do we really know what we are actually looking for at the end of the day? Check out Dr. Fleming’s take on our myopia around struggles in this realm.
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Dr. Fleming’s Client Featured in Forbes
“I engaged Dr. Fleming because his approach and methods were different from traditional executive coaching. He helped me take an intensive, internal journey before gathering external feedback to surface areas for action. I went into it feeling ‘stuck’ and concluded feeling rejuvenated. There’s executive coaching, then there’s Dr. Fleming. I recommend CEOs feeling a bit stuck to consider Dr. Fleming as they look to optimize their contributions for the future success of their organization.”DR. FLEMING’S CLIENT FEATURED IN FORBES:
Matthew Gonnering,
CEO of Widen
Podcast
Grey Matters International, Inc.
Interviewed by Global Leadership Training firm DDI
Neuroleadership expert Dr. Kevin Fleming joins DDI for a timely discussion on how to handle mental health in the workplace.
Trailer – Wisdom From The Heart
Dr. Fleming joins award-winning singer/songwriter David Wilcox in the studio for a recording session and then sits down for a thought provoking dialogue on the healing power of music for our culture’s maladies. Specifically, how therapy and music can ‘mimic’ the age old searching for the wisdom of the heart and how many hidden errors can block each craft from getting to ……the REAL truth of beauty and change.
Work and Life Service Areas – Changing The Way You Change
Why Grey Matters International
is Not Therapy, Rehab or Self-Help
The brain is wired to feel right, not to be happy or fulfilled. We pursue notions and desires that, at times, conflict with the pattern-making parts of our brains. Because most traditional approaches to changing behavior attempt to “feel good,” our brains confuse attaining that feeling with “effective behavior change”: mistaking good feelings as doors that set us free. Thus we “short-circuit” our own happiness and effectiveness when our attempts at change are built upon attractive half-truths. What we end up with are maddening patterns of behaviors, decisions, or resultant moods, all of which seem to persist or actually get stronger as a result of an approach that was flawed from the beginning.
Instead, we at Grey Matters International believe that:
- No problem will ever be solved on the same level of thinking it originally was created on;
- Human decision-making is not purely rational, and is influenced by many seemingly irrelevant factors that are irrational;
- That both the “self-help” and “brain change” industries are wrought with pseudo-science;
- Most forms of human suffering are second-order change issues (ie, change coming from implicit assumptions/rules of a system not working anymore vs. elements within);
- Emotions and counseling-based-dialogues are error-prone and have many brain-based biases that need different levels of influence;
- Ultimately, human beings need help changing how we change……
Welcome to the game-changing tools of Grey Matters International, Inc.
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Interview with Dr. Fleming
on DDI World’s Leadership Podcast
Neuroleadership expert Dr. Kevin Fleming joins DDI for a timely discussion on how to handle mental health in the workplace.
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About Dr. Kevin Fleming
Dr. Kevin Fleming is Founder of a unique neuroscience-based decision-making and behavior-change consulting firm. Serving clients in a concierge fashion, Dr. Fleming travels the world helping clients change — onsite, in their milieu — when traditional psychology, psychiatry, self-help and other “trite motivational” approaches haven’t worked. Earning a B.A., M.A. and Ph.D. from the University of Notre Dame and doing a Postdoctoral Residency in Behavioral Medicine, he went on to apply the latest of neuroscience technologies and neuroeconomics to problems of irrationality that ‘slip through the cracks’ of other healthcare approaches. He has served clients on 5 continents, including cabinet members for the King of Jordan, Fortune 100 executives, and NFL players, and has been cited in the New York Times, Fortune Magazine, Newsweek, CNN and many others. His work has received acclaim from both faculty at Harvard Medical and Business Schools, and he is an Advisory Board Member at EON Reality, a company advancing learning with virtual reality. He resides in Jackson Hole, Wyoming and Tulsa, Oklahoma, and is a singer/songwriter on the side. (www.nimbitmusic.com/kevinfleming)
When Success Does Not Mean Happiness…
Watch Dr. Fleming's NEW video about our obsession with pleasure-seeking, how it confuses our sense of contentment, and the way 'out' with Grey Matters
Published Research
A slower cycle that lets you actually read each of the things!
Cabinet Member for the King of Jordan
“The keynote by Dr. Kevin J. Fleming was rich in its contribution to the overall success of the conference and significantly added to our knowledge. Not isolated from the psychological aspect, organizational transformation encounters compelling needs and implications regarding the perception and conviction of people towards change. This fact was emphasized through the presentation, taking into consideration that the core of transformation is the human element, and people, in order to change ,need to have a good and positive perception of things. The presentation was beneficial in tackling how people have different perceptions about the same thing or phenomenon, which means that the there is variance between the real image and the “in-mind” image which is formed based upon our own way of thinking that determines how we see things. This is very important because, as the presentation stated, there is no organizational transformation without personal transformation. Part of our role in public sector development is personal transformation; this linkage was highlighted and was highly value-adding to our team in emphasizing that organizational transformation needs shift in our way and level of thinking.
We would like as Ministry of Public Sector Development to extend our thanks and appreciation to Dr. Fleming’s courtesy for his participation and his valuable contribution to the conference, in addition to the distinctive and interesting management of the presentation.”
Cabinet Member for the King of Jordan
Bill Bartmann
National Entrepreneur of the Year
“Grey Matters International, Inc provides a well-needed service in the sometimes trite and overly-motivation-based self and organizational development market. If you are seeking true behavior change solutions that last, Dr. Fleming’s thinking and tools are the way to go…..”
Bill Bartmann
Srini Pillay,M.D.
СEO, NeuroBusiness Group Assistant Professor, Harvard Medical School
“…Dr.Kevin Fleming is an extraordinary coach with the striking combination of a brilliant mind and an exceedingly warm heart. He is able to artfully apply his understanding of neuropsychology and the philosophy of science to help people with a wide array of challenges in a refreshingly practical manner. If you are looking for someone who is able to inspire lasting change and transformation, Dr. Fleming is your man. Within minutes of meeting him, it will be obvious that his Renaissance spirit has somehow managed to marry the bottom line with an elevated understanding of the greatest challenges that individuals and businesses face. Working with Dr. Fleming is an experience you will likely remember for the rest of your life….”
Srini Pillay, M.D.
Tony Ricci
MS, CSCS, LDN, CISSN, CNS, Pfizer Nutritionist – Pfizer Occupational Health & Wellness
“We had the great fortune of working with Dr Kevin Fleming; producing a video series for Pfizer Colleagues in which he provided cutting edge strategies for managing stress. Not only did Dr Fleming afford these cutting edge strategies, his engaging approach on camera has produced an entertaining and highly informative resource for our colleagues. His work has captivated our colleagues and offered them a new and refreshing approach for managing 21st century stressors.
My experience has taught me that a good coach can get others to believe in them and what they teach; yet a great coach can get others to believe in themselves and what they can achieve. Dr Fleming is that kind of a coach, one who can foster both action and ongoing change in others. His knowledge of neuroscience and human behavior is surpassed only by his integrity and genuine consideration of others. We thank him for one of the most successful campaigns we have provided to our colleagues. “
Tony Ricci
John Townsend, Ph.D
New York Times bestselling author, founder of the Townsend Institute for Leadership and Counseling, psychologist
“Dr. Fleming provides customized and highly effective growth paths for his clients, and in an innovative and well-researched manner.“
John Townsend, Ph.D
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Dr. Fleming Books and Publications
Dr. Fleming’s work has been featured in the New York Times, Fortune Magazine, Forbes, CNN, Christian Science Monitor and many other respected media outlets. He has been published with such greats at Stephen Covey and Deepak Chopra and has a new book in process due out in 2015. In the meantime, explore his writings below.
Dr. Fleming Videos
Inside the Heart and Mind of a Unique Shrink
The power of music has a certain rhythm, certain structure and a certain order and so does life. The jazz paradigm was powerful to me because what jazz does is it gives you a certain structure and inside that you can do what you want. I think that sort of integration being between the analytical and the creative, the core changes and the riffing. The structure, the music and the improvisation was always at play at my work.
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I still remember the feeling of going “I don’t know what to say, I don’t know what to do”. Everything I was trained in seemed to fail me. This was a person that was sitting on their windowsill looking to maybe jump, but just dangling feet so I just happened to see guitars on the wall, but I just asked if he wanted to play the guitar. It was either going to be brilliant or completely stupid. I just sat on the window sill with him and just played and it was very different and strange because it was at one level very I suppose reckless and on another level just right.
I actually think that’s more what’s so beautiful about those moments for any of my clients. It’s not that you do something, but that you at least create enough doubt that the thing they’re stuck on may not be the end end all be all. This day, I mean I know I was just an instrument of something greater. It was definitely a wonderful moment to know not necessarily that I changed a life or I saved a life, but that at least something different was possible.
Executive Coaching Program for CEO’s
Dr. Fleming speaks about the increased complexity around decision making for CEOs and the need to “think more about our thinking” behind trite leadership programs out there today.
About Kevin Fleming : Why I do what I do
A down to earth interview with Dr. Fleming about the hidden reasons why he loves helping people.
Neuroscience Tips of Fixing Burnout in Corporate America
With stress and burnout becoming one of the biggest problems in the well-being of employees and execs these days, it is time to “get real” on where those hidden risks are that predispose us all for performance declines, addiction, relational distress, and health concerns. Dr. Fleming speaks to the laws of the brain and what we all need to know if we are to “get it right” and be well and successful.
Dr. Fleming's Trailer for Revolutionizing Change
Many talk a good game on how to help people change, but this video speaks to the radical and inspirational way Dr. Fleming blows up the way we think of change. A renegade and at times controversial in his idea, Dr. Fleming questions the assumptions of many traditional methodologies to get to the heart and soul of this perplexing idea of transformation. Enjoy the ride!
Check out Kevin Fleming Ph.D. in action
In January, Pfizer the world’s largest pharmaceutical company in sales, searched for someone unique and impactful to explore neuroscience-oriented strategies to dealing with employee stress.