“I am a single, well-educated mother of two children one of whom has a learning disability. Unfortunately, my little family of three has had to deal with difficulties related to a painful, sudden divorce, issues with their father who may have a personality disorder as well as childhood depression and other challenges of life. Also, recently, my father whom I was very close to passed away and a two-year intimate relationship ended suddenly and extremely painfully. As I felt that all too familiar feeling of sinking back into the disabling depression that I had battled back from several years ago, I fortunately came across Dr. Kevin Fleming’s website.
I wrote to Kevin using the form on his Website initially about my concerns about my son and within a day or so, he called me directly. We spoke for over an hour about all three of us, what we had gone through and during that conversation I felt that someone finally understood the situation I was in and my overarching goal to help all three of us become more resilient to deal with the twists and turns of life. My goal for myself was to not allow this blindsiding last blow of the long-term relationship suddenly ending to send me back into disabling, depressive episodes I had previously experienced when my husband also left me with no warning six years prior. Kevin and I spoke about PTSD and I related to him how I felt I was re-experiencing the trauma of the last six years with the most recent, unexpected emotional events. I did not want to go back there and I wanted to be better emotionally for my little family. I also wanted to help my children become more emotionally resilient to deal with the difficulties they face at times in school and at home with their Dad.
After speaking with Kevin, I read everything I could get my hands on about brain optimization technology. Holding a Ph.D., myself, I understood that this was state-of-the-art technology with research still emerging but I held the testimonials in very high regard. I read how Kevin’s approach made a difference for war veterans who recovered from persistent nightmares, a CEO who suffered most of his life from ADHD and social difficulties now living in a healthier way and others now free from dealing with depression, anger and rage. I decided to pull the trigger for myself first trying Dr. Fleming’s techniques personally before exposing my children to them. Kevin answered all my questions, eased all my anxiety and I flew to Tulsa, Oklahoma for a week.
When I arrived in Tulsa, I was in an amazing amount of emotional pain based on the ending of the most significant relationship in my life feeling as if life would never get better and would always feel like I was “moving through molasses.” I felt that my family, my work and my life were back in an acute phase of suffering once again but this time, I was determined to do something about it. I was nervous but went into the experience with an open mind. Dr. Fleming first mapped by brain explaining to me the first day that my right hemisphere that handles emotional reactivity was operating 400% more than my left. Kevin stated that like the war veterans he dealt with, my brain was continually operating like it was “under siege” awaiting the next emotional attack or for “the next rug to be pulled out from under me.” He described my state of mind and experience exactly for the last six years as I had dealt with multiple legal and emotional events out of my control and confirmed what I could not describe to anyone that my brain perceived these events as emotional trauma. Like the war vets, I was re-experiencing post traumatic stress and my brain was relying on the former stress related pathways I think established six years prior. Kevin very clearly explained that through his technology we were going to try to re-direct the electrical system of my brain to rebalance it as well as create new pathways.
That week went fast with two relaxing, non-invasive sessions each day. I began to feel effects as soon as the second day. I felt lighter, more positive, and very relaxed. At the end of the week, Kevin and I parted friends and I went home to move forward in my life but not before confirming two spots for my children later in the summer. A month later, the three of us spent our summer vacation in beautiful Wyoming each of them having two sessions for five days each. At the conclusion of the sessions, my child with learning disabilities and other significant challenges, said he felt like, “…the static in his brain was reduced and there was now less continual static going on.” My other child without these challenges but some sadness said she felt “…much happier and having more energy.” Over the last two months, I have noticed differences in their attitudes, affect, responsibility and maturity that I had not seen prior to time spent with Dr. Fleming. My son, remarkably, now remembers to take his own medication, focuses better on tasks and my daughter seems more at peace with life and less emotionally vulnerable.
I will sincerely state that I think Dr. Kevin has helped me achieve what seemed like a totally elusive goal at the time. I feel I am more emotionally balanced, resilient and able to be the type of mother I want to be – one that is not letting life and events out of my control completely emotionally devastate me anymore. I am more focused, more productive and am able to accomplish the demands in my life with an even temperament more than ever before. I no longer feel like an emotional victim but in more in control of our lives and futures. I am eager to see the full effects of this treatment for my children during this upcoming school year but I can definitively say that two months out we are all less emotionally volatile, more thoughtful, more productive and truly are enjoying each other more.
I have not studied neuroscience but I would state that this brain optimization experience was incredibly powerful, uninvasive and totally different than traditional talk therapy or the psychopharmacological solutions that are so often prescribed in situations like ours. The results for me evidence a much more subtle perceptive effect than medication but somehow one that seems overall more effective and enduring. And the results I wanted for us happened after spending only one week with Dr. Fleming which I find truly amazing. My children and I are more resilient and seem to be able to allocate attention and emotions in an improved way. This is not something that can always be shown in a statistically significant study but I can fully attest to the power of this technology as a positive catalyst in my own life. My thinking, my work, my emotional reactions and most importantly, living my life has a clarity and a feeling of balance and presence that did not exist prior to treatment with Dr. Fleming and for that, I am truly thankful.
My little family, that has seem to have continually been on an emotional roller coaster over the last few years with painful experiences of which we had no control over, is now functioning as a strong unit of three that seems to be able to better deal with the what the world might deliver. We are happier, more centered, with less mental and emotional static in our lives. I am now a calmer, better mother who can now model the things I want to for my children – resilience, emotional strength and true balance. I cannot recommend Dr. Kevin Fleming’s services any higher than to say that I am now eager to see what the future holds for all three of us. I truly believe that after Dr. Fleming’s treatment, all three of us can rise to great heights, deal with whatever life brings and that the future for myself and two children is very, very bright.
