Crucial marriage counseling questions to ask your spouse
If you are worried that your relationship has reached the point of no return, rife with conflicts, marriage counseling can help you rebuild a happy marriage. However a conflict ridden marriage means you and your spouse are not in the best shape to premeditate and come up with the right questions to ask in a marriage counseling session.
Since a gamut of emotions run high in a strained relationship, you might just forget what to ask, and end up with a brain freeze in a marriage counseling session.
The most important step toward making the most out of a marriage counseling session, is to be prepared beforehand. And that’s why we have prepared an expert roundup on the most crucial marriage counseling questions to ask your spouse.
Experts themselves reveal the right marriage counseling questions to ask your spouse and how these can help you air your concerns and find solutions to your marital problems.
KEVIN FLEMING, Ph.D.
It was once said by CS Lewis that the ideal marriage is one where you could turn to your partner and say, “I love you just as you are and so much so to have you not stay that way.”
And so, in my work, it is key to get at this ‘dialectic’ of change and no-change, where the tension of wisdom is held between two people for most people want both predictability of being loved as they are and growth/development of ideals.
So here are my meta-level bullets.
- What is the shadow side of what you love about me?”
- “How do I make loving me harder for you?”
- “If there is any resentment about me under the radar in this marriage, where would it be?”
- “What double-binds do I put out there? That is, how do I ask/say one thing but really pull for something else?”
- “What have I missed about who you are?”