ANGER – what we struggle to hide

ANGER – what we struggle to hide

John Townsend

John Townsend, Ph.D

New York Times bestselling author, founder of the Townsend Institute for Leadership and Counseling, psychologist

“Dr. Fleming provides customized and highly effective growth paths for his clients, and in an innovative and well-researched manner.“

John Townsend, Ph.D

Dr. Fleming provides customized and highly effective growth paths for his clients, and in an innovative and well-researched manner.

John Townsend, Ph.DNew York Times bestselling author, founder of the Townsend Institute for Leadership and Counseling, psychologist

Dr. Fleming walked with me through a season of deep grief as I faced the end of my 34 years of marriage. He helped me to hold two very different narratives without explanation, judgment or justification. He challenged me to make personal choices true to my compass of Biblical grace and mercy. The Neurotech work was peculiar, unsettling then peaceful and empowering.

I recommend Dr. Fleming’s expertise to those willing to honestly swim in the deep to find peace.

EKSSeattle, WA

I am very excited to write you my testimony of how Doc Fleming is working to make my life a wonderful place to be in! I am becoming a new woman-the woman-I was created to be! Not a person full of anxiety, depression, anger, torment and irrational behavior and thinking! When I contacted Doc whom I came across by the grace of God. I was in pretty bad shape. No, the people around me weren’t aware of my inner turmoil and darkness. I was a pretty good at masking and I kept a safe distance. My family who are closest to me was affected by my behavior. I saw I was driving my 5 children away, separated from my husband of 37 years for 2 years now. They couldn’t understand it. Exteriorly it seemed like I had everything. But something was very wrong in my heart, soul and mind. I had been in and out therapy for 20 years! They all had some pretty interesting theories and some —got me deeper into a downward spiral.

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So… 20 years later God grants me an answered prayer and I meet Doc Fleming! I went for what he calls the “Full Monty.” Right away he gave me hope with his great insight into my life which I laid bare to him. First of all, he told me he couldn’t do the neuro tech work until I had my spiritual house in order. He worked diligently to get me in touch with a specific priest that would help me with the spiritual warfare going on in my soul. That was incredible and doc monitored me the whole time always explaining and encouraging.

Over the past 5 years I had really started letting myself go. I just didn’t care about my taking care of myself. I was drinking too much wine and gained 35 pounds. Sorry that I let this happen, I tried with no avail to undo this damage. But doc…that 1st week we started -not by any pressure but purely inspired me to exercise, change my diet and miracle-stop the ‘3 bottle a week’ wine! I haven’t felt this good and I don’t give into the pressures of all the unhealthiness that surrounds me.

When we met for the neuro tech work I was ready! He drove three hours in the snow to get to me! It is so inconceivable how wonderful the experience is. The 4 days passed too quickly and each of the 4 days I left with a clearer fresher mind! Doc had to do all the work. I got to enjoy peace. My brain, he showed me was definitely wound up and wired to the max! No wonder I was having such depression and anxiety. I can’t even begin to tell you how smart Doc is but also very down to earth in explanations! He rewired my brain! Whew! It was like the Holy Spirit blew through me. It’s been 2 weeks since the neuro work and what I notice is I wake up refreshed without the alarm (4:30 am), clearly I am discovering learned behaviors I’ve been doing on automatic that keep me from being the authentic me. *There hasn’t been a dark day of torment and pain! The moments of angst are dealt with immediately and include a learning skill from the help of doc.

[Now for the harder part…to keep my brain from returning to it’s old habits and searching why and how I got to be the way I was. Sure I knew from my 20 years of therapy that I am the child of drunken socialites for parents, my mother is narcissistic, and controlling. I made many extremely bad choices in life because in my younger years I thought that was what you did in life- have fun, flirt with danger and look sexy. That was until my 3rd child died of an unknown illness. After that I spent years wanting to die myself but also becoming more aware that life as I thought it- was not real and I needed to change.]

Doc has made me aware of the deep fears that lie within me and that make me act (unconsciously for the most part) in irrational, impetuous, lying, pouty little girl behaviors. Full of so much anger and tormented pain!

Magic? No! I believe God is working through Doc! He has a God given gift and is using it to better the world.

The exceptional references that pop out of his brain just for my help… books, quotes, web sights, prayers, just a wealth of information… Oh yes, let me not forget his music! They all broaden my horizon!

He understands me and he’ll understand you! His price is worth every penny …. I would take out a loan if you have to for the ‘full monty”!

And so Doc, I thank you for the millionth time! I’m counting on every moment we have left to work together that I will be made free from the chains I have worn for too long!

“What thanks can I give to God for all the love I’ve found within me to use for others because “you” are using your God given talents?”!!!

You are wonderful! Let our adventure continue!

I speak the truth in Sincerity and thankfulness to God,

Kim RayerPhiladelphia, PA

How can you put into words a miraculous change, and make it sound as believable as it is? As I sat in church the other day and listened to the Pastor deliver a sermon about grief and the five stages of grief, I thought of my personal relationship. The five stages are as follows: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. All five stages of grief are normal as long as you don’t get stuck too long in any particular stage. As I thought of my personal relationship, I realized I had indeed been grieving the loss of a loving relationship and had moved through the first three stages and got stuck in the fourth; depression. That’s where I was when I first met Kevin Fleming; stuck in a seemingly hopeless state of “giving up”. I had lost my voice, my joy and my will. After the first day of neuro tech work with Doc Fleming, my emotions were all over the place. On a long walk afterwards, I laughed, cried, smiled and felt pure joy for the first time in a long while. Each following session proved to be moving me in the right direction of calm and well-being. Almost two weeks later and I cannot explain how different I feel. I have joy and confidence. I feel calm and at the same time a renewed sense of energy. I finally feel truly alive for the first time in a very long time! If you or someone you know are “stuck” where they don’t want to be, I highly recommend that you look into this amazing process and get free of whatever is holding you back from a life of joy. I cannot thank Kevin Fleming enough for his research in the neuro tech field and his kind and compassionate approach to healing.

KaroleeSeattle, WA

Thank you for giving my marriage & family a 2nd chance at happiness & peace. I can only imagine where we would be at this point if we did not acquire your help. Your insight, support and knowledge have been invaluable over the past 6 months. I enjoyed our time working together…

KimBoston, MA

I had been a binge drinker since I was a teenager. “Let’s have a few” and “always up for a good time” were part of my persona. After a tough day at work, a little numbing seemed ok. Drinking was an easy way to escape the white noise in life. But when my kids went off to college the opportunity to have a few (too many) and my ability to control myself became a more frequent problem. My drinking was affecting my relationship with my wife and kids, and I realized that this was not the person I wanted to be, and I needed help.

I am well known and respected in my profession and in the community and deeply value my privacy, so AA or group counselling was never an option.

I stumbling onto Doctor Fleming and his unconventional ways online. Skeptical, I read his book, and asked for references who all overwhelmingly helped my get over my reservations and I took the leap of faith.

After several calls and text messages Dr. Fleming went to work. I have known many people in my life, but none with his AMAZING ability to understand you and connect with you at your level. It is his true gift from God!

With never a pretense of judgment, Doc was able to help me understand how my relationship with my drink was more important than the relationship I craved with my wife and kids. Ultimately, he helped me understand how alcohol was keeping me from being “fully present” and re-programmed me so I could enjoy the relationships that mattered most in my life.

EdBoston, MA

Hello Dr. Fleming
I am taking the time to write you in appreciation for the tremendous help and value that your program was for me.
Your thorough professionalism combined with you kindness and caring was the key to paving the way for assisting me in taking the giant steps forward in my life. The human way that you presented the findings of your very scientific method allowed me to understand my past behaviour and implement the changes that are needed for a strong future.
Thank you again for the program you have developed.

TomToronto, Canada

Dr. Fleming’s approach helped me to attack the issues I faced of impulse control and to begin to recover from burnout by working on getting my adrenals to function better while he determined what kind of emotional state I was in with EQ testing. From there he worked to calm my brain through his neuro methods. I immediately started sleeping so much better and have had noticeable improvements in my ability to process and retain new information.

Nicholas S.Visalia,CA